Once we (well, some of us) got over hating each other over our skin's Melanin content, it seems our private parts were next, and even more importantly, what we DID with our private parts. But with enough slogging we (well, some of us) got through thinking women couldn't X or Y (pun intended)
, and eventually many barriers in their way fell. Then we (well, some of us) worked on not hating people who like people of their own gender. With some even more slogging we (well, some of us) are even getting over people who don't want to identify as a specific gender, or who were born with ambiguous gender, or who want to be the opposite gender and then be homosexual.... and so on and so forth etc. Turns out there's nothing binary about gender. How I wish we could teach that to more people.
But now things in the gender arena seem to have gone completely haywire. Men's Rights Activists are now having to fight in the USA for men's rights after women have become the default victors in various legal arena's including rape, domestic abuse, or child custody battles. But I think I've mentioned this before.... I say it here for context....
Meanwhile feminists are trying to shut up (and succeeding) any public discourse that disagrees with their agenda at the expense of science, education and pretty much everyone.
And then we get to my current gripe: Determining gender for the purposes of propagating tradition. More specifically: Where should you be allowed to defecate?
Yes gentle-gender-neutral-persons, this is where we find ourselves. As the US has exploded into a battle for the potty, (reminiscent to me of racial segregation laws), the great problem of the modern world is whether you are woman enough to go to the ladies' room
And almost immediately people start getting it wrong
. I'm so surprised! Are you surprised? 'Cause I sure am!
I put to you, that our deeply-ingrained beliefs about how the world is supposed to work wrt gender are so wrong that even those progressives trying to fight for the rights of the transgendered have their argument all wrong. Even they are too indoctrinated to notice the base assumptions they are making. They lack the imagination to see a truly different world.
Let me tell you what I think, and then please question it for me:
This is not a "new" problem of course, this could've been happening happily for 100's of years and nobody would've been the wiser because to most people "transsexuals" didn't exist until just the other day. (There is no Pedi word for it, after all). But moreover even if transsexuals did not exist it was still a problem, just not one that really seemed to matter to anyone in particular even though the implications are pretty much the same: Where should homosexuals go?
Is anyone under the impression that people who are sexually attracted to them haven't in been their gym locker room checking out their naked goodies?
How is this fundamentally different to having women and men sharing a bathroom anyway?
Of course, on a practicality scale this can get out of hand very quickly. We can't have seperate bathrooms for women, men, transsexuals who used to be men but now are women, and other transsexuals who went the other way, and pansexuals, and homosexuals, and asexuals...... etc. This would be madness!
So what are we trying to prevent here? I surmise we don't want "men" ogling "women" and we don't want "women" ogling "men", and we don't want "men" ogling "men", and so on and so forth. Part of my assumption questioning step would ask: "Well if gay men are checking my package out anyway what's the problem with letting women do it?"... but let's calm this down to "baby steps" for a moment. Our societies are 100's of years away from contemplating that en-masse (outside of nudist colonies, of course).
A different objection that the US conservatives use, which I personally consider a conveniently made-up reason, is that there could be male predators that claim to be transsexual going into female bathrooms and presenting a danger to young girls. The assumption I'd like to question there is: Why do we always assume MEN are inherently more dangerous to minors than women? Like, at least 1/2 the school sex-scandals I've ever heard of were female teachers with male students. AT LEAST that. And given that sexual preferences can go either way with either gender.... But I'll tell you why: Feminist Propaganda. Men are the evil ones, men are not to be trusted, men beat their spouses, "1 out of 4 men" are a rapist, or a predator, or... and some equally laughable "statistics" that get quoted over and over and over. Drives me frikin insane. But anyway...
Brass tax: Would you leave a female toddler alone in a female restroom filled with strangers, and be sure when you returned they'd still be there? I surely wouldn't!
Back to my main vein of thought: The real problem here, the one that everyone seems to be oblivious of: is that we have very little personal privacy in restrooms/locker rooms/toilets to begin with
. How's this for fucking insane: We take down the walls separating the men's and women's and actually apply our minds to some very extreme and drastic measures: Private showers, Nice, thick, stall doors and walls that reach ALL THE WAY to the floor and ceiling, private changing stalls in the case of locker-rooms/gyms. You know... CRAZY PERSON TALK!
Boom! All these gender problems disappear, we all have drastically improved privacy and more comfort using "the amenities", and we don't have to come up with new, imaginative, and arbitrary gender definitions we have to somehow guess at when determining who may enter. Basically, make the bathroom a public space like anywhere else.
I can dream.