2. Probably because you're a bit too anal.
Please define, Superficially and at first look I find this insulting without apparent reason.
No time to respond to all of your post, but here is a definition of "anal" as related to your "nitpicking", again from my OED:
3 Psychoanal. Of, pertaining to, or designating the second stage of Freud's suggested process of libidinal development (lasting from about the age of eighteen months to three years), dominated by toilet training; displaying character traits such as obsessive orderliness, parsimony, or obstinacy that are thought to result from fixation at this stage.