Anger, frustration and irritation

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Faerie (March 24, 2014, 11:50:15 AM):
I've been struggling with anger issues since childhood and was prone to physically attack the object of annoyance (be it human or otherwise). I've managed to stomp it under control (mostly) in my twenties after I had my kids (life in prison for murdering one's kids didnt sit well with me) but now in my mid-life I'm becoming acutely aware of how I actually deal with my anger. Which is not very well.

I have zero tolerance with stupid people - stupid describing anyone that either dont think for themselves or trying to push a responsibility onto someone else, also emotional people that goes into a flap at the slightest perceived problem and proceeds to blow it up into an inconceivable mountain of emotional blah. I dont have patience anymore to sit down and pat someone's hand telling them how to fix their bugger-ups when they have the mental capability of figuring it out for themselves.

My S/O suffers from similar issues and he's known to break all sorts of unfortunate pieces of furniture and appliances in utter frustration and I generally leave him to it. (I dont mind, it means I'm getting new stuff)

Do you suffer from similar feelings and how do you deal with it, and how does your nearest and dearest deal with your deep-laying frustrations and anger?
st0nes (March 24, 2014, 12:22:52 PM):
Do you suffer from similar feelings and how do you deal with it, and how does your nearest and dearest deal with your deep-laying frustrations and anger?

I swear a lot, which gets it out of my system without doing physical or bodily harm. My S/O turns a deaf ear; she knows that the storm is soon over and the sun reappears...
Rigil Kent (March 24, 2014, 13:01:46 PM):
Do you suffer from similar feelings and how do you deal with it, and how does your nearest and dearest deal with your deep-laying frustrations and anger?

Yes, I too get annoyed with people who refuse to use their god given intellect to embrace logical things like atheism.

But speaking of nearest and dearest ...

At home I am not allowed to get angry anymore, because I end up throwing small, cheap things at walls. This sets off my better half as well, but she is less discriminating and I have unsuccessfully tried to dodge two flower vases in co-trajectory, a tube of wood glue, and a telescope. To me, it seems like nothing comes close to the rage induced by our own loved ones. Is that normal? I have no idea, but long ago we had agreed to an amicable divorce, should it come to that. So, after a major disagreement, we sulkily update the settlement documents. But by the time we are done we have fallen back in love. Silly, really. ::)

Rigil
BoogieMonster (March 24, 2014, 13:15:25 PM):
Can't say I relate, so no advice here. I don't get angry easy... grumpy, but seldom angry. When I do I usually just drop a cuss or two and generally feel more of a feeling of dismay than anger.

The couple of times me and the S/O have gone at each other I've always resolved to find a middle ground and sort it out before anyone can go to bed angry.

... I've managed to stomp it under control (mostly) in my twenties ...

Hehe, dealing with anger violently. ;)
Rigil Kent (March 24, 2014, 13:19:59 PM):
... and sort it out before anyone can go to bed angry.
Pffft, amateurs. We try not going on holiday angry. :P

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