Awkward situations...

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GCG (June 23, 2011, 09:29:56 AM):
not at all Joan. i got married, and two months in, i had upgraded from bride to punching bag. you just never know. some people are incredibly adept at keeping a mask, or even a number of them, on for anyone interrested.
Faerie (June 23, 2011, 09:33:52 AM):
not at all Joan. i got married, and two months in, i had upgraded from bride to punching bag. you just never know. some people are incredibly adept at keeping a mask, or even a number of them, on for anyone interrested.

You'd have to be damn good to manage it for 16 years.... which is how long they were married. Look, I always maintained that she is'nt a very clever girl, but I never considered her to be a lowlife stupid until now.
BoogieMonster (June 23, 2011, 10:41:16 AM):
I'm pleased that this woman is being named and shamed, even by her friends like Joan(a). I think many families try to shove this stuff under the carpet and the culprits seem to not get the scorn they deserve.
JoanA Arc (June 23, 2011, 11:12:38 AM):
I am not a Mother Grundy and sometimes I am accused of being too liberal. I do however have strong ethics and a moral code. I am married, I love my husband, and right from the beginning of our marriage I took my vows seriously. Cheating on your spouse is NOT ON, ever. I may cheat when playing cards especially when hubby is winning outrageously, but that's different :-)

The email I sent to Nicolene on 16 March came about because I was so shocked, stunned and upset about what she had done that I fired off the e-mail straight away. I even called her the same day trying to get hold of her to find out what the hell was going on, and she stonewalled me, it was like speaking to a stranger. I haven't seen or heard from her since our last get-together in early February. This was someone I thought was my close friend and confidante for 8 years! I realised after the heat of the moment that it was very dumb of me to cc all her workmates as it does lay me open for being sued for defamation etc. but I wasn't thinking about that at the time. But damn it felt good. And I stick to my guns about what I said to her.

Why should Nicolene be allowed to get away with what she has done? Why must her hubby be dragged through the mud and her two sons too? All 3 of them are going to endure a lot of pain and other issues for some time after the divorce and will have to pick up the pieces of their lives as best they can. They are suffering mentally and emotionally because of her attitude and her behaviour. And through of all of the mess that she has created, she is at the moment cruising along happy in her new world she has set up with the new boyfriend; she has managed to sweep her past life: marriage, children - EVERYTHING - under the mat. She's leaving everything to the hubby to sort out - divorce papers, sorting out the house, etc. because she's too engrossed in partying with the 26-yr old. None of this means anything to her, all she is focused on is making plans for her forthcoming wedding (I kid you not) and there is even rumour of her wanting to fall pregnant soon! Ye gods.

I ask again - why should she be allowed to have everything her way, leaving behind a string of suffering and pain? I strongly believe it shouldn't be allowed to happen, and too many folks keep quiet when they should be more vocal about being so badly mistreated.

What goes around comes around, and if your (supposed) best friend can't tell you what an ass you are being, then who can?

Faerie (September 19, 2011, 14:24:58 PM):
So the divorce has been finalised, my brother got custody of the two boys and they'll be moving schools end of October to live with their Dad. Their home is still on the market, there has been some interest but its a buyers market and I suspect the price isnt right. Financially, both parties have been ruined, considering she has'nt paid her share of the house and rates, and moved out of the house when the electricity got cut about a month ago. She also announced to the children that she is pregnant and delighted at the prospect of becoming a mommy again. I'm not sure what the boys think about this, but the psychologist sees them every Friday and we'll find out soon enough. The eldest will be failing this year at school, he's been taking it very badly and the youngest has suddenly become a cheeky sullen little boy. The joys of divorce.

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