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« on: June 11, 2010, 10:50:06 AM »

I have this little hobby called people watching.
I usually apply this to my excursions to the local larnie shopping mall.
But I allso like to observe social interaction in the workplace.
Now I dont know if this is a female thing, or a human thing.
It seems, that the only way cohesion can be attained, is by having everyone turn on someone. Example.
Someone is pissed off at someone else.  She moans to someone else, and soon she has an army behind her, and the poor sod is out in the cold.  she and her mates, get on like a house on fire.  soon enough, she is pissed off at one of her friends, and then the previously non-hombre, is in again.
i noticed this too, with my mum and sister.  my sister and i are best buds if we are both miff with  my mum.  when my mum is moerig with  my sister, we are mates again.  now they are both pissed at me, and im sure they are pretty much joined at the hip (good for them).
is this exlusively female behaviour?
is it human behaviour?
is it white behaviour?
is it a hierarchy behaviour (backing the strongest candidate, to keep your skin)
or good, old fashioned, gatkruip?

i have not yet worked in a male-dominated environment, so its hard for me to judge.
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« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2010, 11:02:11 AM »

IM(Biased)HO: It's a female thing. (Usual exceptions apply of course) Women seem to be much more intentionally spiteful towards each other than I find men to be. A gathering of women *I* perceive as almost being some kind of popularity contest and anyone prettier/richer/happier than me is my MORTAL ENEMY!

Although, men like to playfully "taunt" a certain member. Can get quite rough but is usually not meant in bad spirits, the guy on the receiving end is usually happily laughing along... The target of the abuse can be changed at a moment's notice though, depending on who is suitably "rippable" at that moment. Should the receiver be very well armed verbally and successfully "burn" his attacker, it's mad man points for him, and generally everyone laughs about it.
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« Reply #2 on: June 11, 2010, 11:21:05 AM »

dudes can allso bite your head off now, and ten minutes later, be your best mate.  and im like, wtf?
a chick, on the other hand, will hate you for weeks.
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« Reply #3 on: June 11, 2010, 12:36:24 PM »

Women are horrible (I'm allowed to say this, being one myself). We fight subtle and emotionally, men grab each other by the throat, shake each other up and then go have a beer. Women though, they keep grudges, they create situations, they've perfected the art of sarcasm, they fight subtly, they smile to your face and wedge the dagger in deeper the moment you turn your back. Approach them directly with the issue and they feign suprise and horror that you might contemplate thinking that they might be so devious....

I have two female friends, and they've come with me for the last 20 odd years, and we only see each other maybe once a year, we keep in contact electronically otherwise, and this suits me just perfectly. Men are much easier to relate to and be friends with, they just tell you straight out that you pissed them off and you can sort it out, women just becomes vindictive and full of issues.

Its a female thing....
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« Reply #4 on: June 11, 2010, 13:07:36 PM »

i get along better with okes in any instance.  talk bikes and cars and guns and fishing tackle.
their chicks hate me. 
and the whole 'women in the kitchen making salad' thing my ass.
 i braai better than any if not all the okes i know.  and im a pyromaniac.  so it helps to reaaaaly like burning shit.
most chicks in our office are pretty  tomboy-ish, so the claws are less likely to come out, but we still have office politics.  im too dof to play those, so im allways blatantly honest and obvious.  i talk like a dude, i argue like a dude.  im not suble.
this freak chicks out, and makes guys insecure.
i just told my friend of ten years, to go get effed.  she is still chommies with my ex, which i have an issue with, since he allmost killed me in abuse, abused my animals, and is screwing her around with money.  she even implied that i should give him another chance!! freck me sister, i think not.  line crossed, good day.

chicks, ja, i dunno.  its weird, coz in the animal world, its the males do all the faffing to get the females attention, and with us, its the opposite.  preening, losing weight, painting our faces...  maybe thats what made our little species evolve as it did.  coz we did things differently.
or maybe coz eve just couldnt resist that goddamned apple.
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« Reply #5 on: June 11, 2010, 13:26:00 PM »

In my experience, wanting to get out on top is not a female thing - its a human thing. Agreed that females are generally a lot more dodgy and mean in their tactics (subtle and conniving) men tend to rely more on their physical strength to show dominance. So, while I also prefer male company to female company, and have more male friends than female ones, if I had to piss someone off, I'm not sure if I would rather deal with the pissed-off female's emotional abuse flung my way, or the (although much easier to understand and usually more short-lived) physical abuse many men seem to want to dish out.
The concept of 'teaming up' is human, not exclusive to males or females or afrikaans people or white people or whatever. Simplest answer - the 'hierarchy behaviour' and 'gatkruip' behaviour you refer to are most often as a result of nobody wanting to take a stand alone
god forbid one might have to take some responsibility then, and even show some loyalty in the long run...  Shocked
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« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2010, 12:03:06 PM »

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« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2010, 09:26:15 AM »

is this exlusively female behaviour?
is it human behaviour?
is it white behaviour?
is it a hierarchy behaviour (backing the strongest candidate, to keep your skin)
or good, old fashioned, gatkruip?

You could also add "family behaviour" to your list GCG. Family relationships are usually more intense than *just friends*. The conflicts seem to hurt more and you cannot simply *walk away* from family without deep emotional trauma. Friends on the other hand ...
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« Reply #8 on: June 17, 2010, 10:12:34 AM »

ja, family, oi vey.  reason number a zillion i keep away from mine.
friends i have very little of.  just told my friend of 10 years to get sodded on friday.  i think one should recycle your friends every so often.  they stagnate, and keep you back.  you upgrade your fone, why dont you upgrade your friends?
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« Reply #9 on: June 17, 2010, 10:20:55 AM »


You could also add "family behaviour" to your list GCG. Family relationships are usually more intense than *just friends*. The conflicts seem to hurt more and you cannot simply *walk away* from family without deep emotional trauma. Friends on the other hand ...

I dunno about it hurting more... I've effectively and relatively easily cut my family out my life around 10 years ago, maybe because I never really did feel any true affection for my brothers at all - and the extended family was the easiest of the lot, I simply ignored all calls for "reconciliation and cleansing". I did reconcile with my folks some 5 years back, but with very firm guidlines in place about what I deem acceptable behaviour and what not (they now live with me - rather happily on both sides actually). My brothers I see maybe once a year and its just a nod by way of greeting from both sides - no big loss there.

Friends though, I CHOSE them and losing them (which I have on occassion) is devastating to me... maybe I'm just odd?
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« Reply #10 on: June 17, 2010, 11:46:47 AM »

having siblings is a biological oddity...creating relationships with them a task that requires commitment from both sides. Parents normally would love to see this work out to everyone's benefit, but in many instnces this just doesn't happen. we were never taught to love in my family (my mother now 93, reckoned its bullshit!) and it was only when I was married and had a wife who taught me to love (not the sex part although she taught me that too...GCG I was a virgin at 24 and she was the first!)I was I think successful in imparting love to my children and they reciprocated...but my own siblings??? no ways, so maybe you get as good as you give without any guarantees and neither should one expect anything in return. Seeing I'm probably the oldest on this site, I thought sharing that with you guys may be of interest.
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